Begin small
Personal letters do not need to be long or perfect. Many people start with a few lines: a favourite memory, something they are proud of, or a simple thank you. You can save a draft and return to it whenever you like.
- Included: A memory you share with this person
- Included: Something you admire about them
- Included: A lesson that helped you through hard times
- Included: A hope you have for their future
- Included: Practical guidance you would like them to have
Messages for occasions
Some people write messages for birthdays, weddings or milestones. Keep in mind that future dates and circumstances are uncertain; write in a way that will still feel true if it is read at a different time.
Decide who should read it
In Our Sandook, every message is private to you. You decide whether a letter stays private, or whether it should be considered for release to a named person only after a death has been reported, reviewed and verified by people. Missed check-ins never release letters.
Talk to the people close to you about your wishes where you can. A conversation now often means more than any letter.
Keep personal and practical separate
Letters are for feelings and memories. Keep practical details, such as where documents are, in your document inventory, and never include passwords or account numbers in a letter.